Then it was back to what they consider to be normal life, mixing events such as the TIME 100 Gala, where Butler was honored as one of the year’s most influential people, and a July 4 trip to Paris with coffee runs, dog walks and casual date nights. And sometimes they make it a foursome, joining Gerber’s parents, Cindy Crawford and Rande Gerber, for pizza in May and hitting Nobu Malibu for dinner with Karlie Kloss and her husband Joshua Kushner on Aug. 13.

“I think that she kind of sees how my husband and I have dealt with it throughout the years,” Crawford, who’s been married to Kaia’s dad for 25 years, told People about her daughter’s approach to living and loving in the public eye. “Which is not like, we don’t ever try to, ‘Oh, we can’t go there because we might get photographed.'”

In fact, the Meaningful Beauty founder added, when it comes to social media and what one does or does not share, “I’m learning along with her about that stuff, but I feel like she seems like she has a very good head on her shoulders and is figuring out how she wants to create that private work-public balance.”

Gerber’s Instagram is an immaculately curated ode to fashion, her career, family, books, travel—basically everything the Bottoms actress loves except her boyfriend. And of course that’s also by design.